It can seem almost impossible to find time for self care as a new mom - self-care needs are high during this time and you're too busy with a newborn, who requires most of your attention. Ironically, when you need self care the most, is when you don't seem to have the time for it!
As someone who has been there, done that...I can tell you that you need to find the time...it will change your experience as a new mom, and it will change how you are as a mom.
So what exactly is self care and how can you obtain enough of it?
Self care is not just about spa days, mani - pedis and bubble baths. Although these things can be included in your self care practice, that's not what everyday self care is about.
Self care is about making sure your physical, social and emotional needs are met. It's about taking care of your whole self and setting aside some time to maintain your well-being.
Why is self care important as a new mom?
Helps you maintain your self worth. Being a new mom is overwhelming, and you often forget "who you are," self care can help you remember that you're a person too.
It sets a good example for your children. When they see mom taking care of herself, they want to take care of themselves too.
Your nutrition needs are super important during this time. Especially for nursing moms - your body will prioritize your baby's needs over yours, causing you to eventually get sick.
Helps prevent burnout.
Helps prevent anxiety and depression.
How you can practice self care as a new mom:
1. Get as much sleep as possible. I know this seems close to impossible, but I'm serious. Sleep when you can - the dishes, laundry and other housework can wait.
Here are a few simple ways to get more sleep:
Go to bed really early. You can already count on getting up multiple times a night, so your typical 7 hours of sleep doesn't count. Aim for at least 10 hours in bed. Seems crazy, but try it.
Ask someone to watch the baby while you sleep. I wish I had done this when my daughter was little - I was always too stubborn to ask for help, and I regret that. This doesn't have to be at night, it can be from 11a-3pm once a week. Ask a friend, a family member, your spouse. Trust me, it will help.
Create a bedtime routine for not just your baby, but for you. After the baby goes to sleep, turn your phone off, avoid caffeinated beverages, and take a bath or read a book. Also, only use your bedroom for sleeping, then your body will get used to knowing your bedroom means sleep time.
2. Eat healthy food. I know, I know...what new mom has time to cook? Or shop for groceries? Or eat?! But it's important. Your body just went through pregnancy and labor, it's recovering and it needs nutrients.
Here are some ways to make this happen:
Have groceries delivered. If you can afford this (I never could), it's a game changer. Most grocery stores offer delivery and it will be a huge time and energy saver.
Make grocery lists of healthy snacks - think apples, nuts, veggies with hummus. Put the list on the refrigerator to remind you what to reach for when you're feeling hungry.
Fill up a big water bottle (preferably reusable) every morning with ice and lemons or cucumbers. Keep it next to you wherever you spend the most time with your baby - if water is more accessible and ready, you'll be more likely to drink it.
Ask your partner to cook for you once (or even a few times) a week. Remember, you're not responsible for everything, it's okay to ask for help.
Make the crock-pot and freezer your best friends for awhile. When you do have time to cook, prepare a few meals ahead of time and freeze them for later.
3. Quiet time. This was something I was pretty good at as a new mom. I used to wake up an hour before the rest of the house to sit and meditate/read. I looked forward to it every morning.
Here are a few ways to find some quiet time:
Put your phone down. I mean it. Put it away for at least an hour and let your brain rest.
Play soothing music - anything that's calming.
Refrain from doing anything during at least one of your baby's naps. No laundry, no cooking, no cleaning. Just take some time to be.
4. Exercise. It doesn't have to be anything rigorous. Just aim to fit 15-20 minutes of movement in a day.
Here are some ideas:
Turn on some upbeat music and dance. You'd be surprised at how good it feels just to get up and move. The baby can watch - he or she might think "mama is crazy," but have fun with it.
Go for a walk. One of the baby's naps can be in the stroller. If you can, try to get outside, if that's not accessible, go to the mall or even the grocery store.
Join a mommy and me class - look them up in your local area. A lot of cities have stroller meet ups. It's a great way to get some exercise and meet new moms - two birds, one stone. :)
As a new mom, you need to take care of the baby, and you need to take care of yourself. Sometimes we make excuses for not taking time to fit self care into our routine, but self care is important - for you and your baby.
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